Now that I have stopped breastfeeding Zach during the day I can start to reclaim my own identity. It isn’t selfish (I hope!) to want to be Laura sometimes rather than Mummy. I will never be the same person I was before children, nor would I want to be. But being me again as a distinct person is essential for my children to see, to value me as a person in my own right rather than just my role in their lives.