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Why I love weddings but won’t be having my own!

(Update: this post title may have surprised you after our engagement announcement on Sunday! I wrote this post a month ago, little knowing that a proposal would be heading my way less than 2 weeks later!)
I love a wedding. Happiness, love, the excitement of a new life together.
But it isn’t for me.
Don’t get me wrong, the idea of being married is fabulous but the whole wedding day is a no go for me and Chris.

The thought of us being the centre of attention is hideous to be quite honest with you! Neither of us want a big day. We have made vows to each other and exchanged rings in private, and we are as committed to our relationship as we could possibly be so why put ourselves through it?
We have considered eloping (sorry, Mum!) but I know our parents would never forgive us and the children would love to be involved.
I have been a bridesmaid 3 times and loved it each time. But the focus wasn’t on me so I could happily fade into the background. I have loved watching friends and family get married, seeing the joy on their faces. I think I cry with happiness at each one (in fact I blubbed A LOT at the rehearsal for my sister’s).

I am not a meringue girl. I do not wear white EVER. I don’t want the logistical nightmare of planning the food and reception. I do not see the point of spending ridiculous money on a single day when we have a family to support. I do not want a first dance (what the heck would we choose to dance to?) I don’t want to dance until midnight.

I love Chris so much but I won’t be heading down the aisle with him.
(UPDATE: oh yes I will!)


  1. Totally get this. I’ve been engaged for 5 years and have cancelled 2 weddings! Ha.

    Congrats on your engagement, just do what is right for you 2 and you 2 alone. Balls to everyone else, it’s your day. #globalblogging

  2. Congrats. I am also not the white poofy dress kind of girl. We got married in a small restaurant, surrounded by only our closest friends and family. Including the photographer, there was 25 people only. I wore “normal” clothes and we just had a great time. Do what works for you and don’t listen to anyone else. #globalblogging

  3. Congrats. Tread your own path and do it (or don’t do it) how best you see fit. My wife and I consciously chose to invite only those people we were closest too, if that meant friends over family then so be it. My family in particular were resentful of that but I don’t regret a thing. Good luck with it 🙂

  4. You should definitely do it your way! My wife and I got married in Florida as this is what she wanted instead of a big wedding here, it was in a small chapel with just close family and it was amazing! #globalblogging

  5. I totally agree about not wanting a wedding – meringue, first dance etc That doesn’t mean I don’t want to be married though. (Hint, hint) Congratulations! Look forward to seeing what kind of ceremony/celebration you choose. Lovely ring. #GlobalBlogging

  6. I love that you are so happy either way! Love is love and we don’t need a ring to say we are committed, to me having a child is a much bigger commitment anyway. I hope you have a wonderful wedding as I know the marriage will be amazing! #Globalblogging

  7. I totally understand this! I absolutely hate being the centre of attention and although my family is so big, we decided on a very small ceremony with just our parents and my son in a registry office. The day after our wedding, we had a big family party where everyone could celebrate 🙂

  8. Haha!! Loved this… Little did you know you would be wearing that GORGEOUS ring on your finger… Congratulation!! All the best to your gorgeous family! #globalblogging

  9. We tried hard to have a very simple wedding – and it worked out pretty well. By choosing to get married in the morning we avoided having a dance full of drunken relatives. Instead we had a luncheon, then invited everyone who was interested to a hike at the local conservation area. It was beautiful, and well before everyone got into having weddings at new and different locations.

    Best of luck with your wedding plans!

  10. I’m not a wedding person either and I’ve had a wedding. But I think that each couple can make their own minds up about what kind of wedding they want. These days you don’t have to wear white if you don’t want to and you can have a small or large wedding depending on your wants and needs. Congratulations to you both and I wish you the best of luck:) #globalblogging

  11. Gorgeous ring! I also said I wasn’t doing the whole wedding thing but my parents offered to pay and allow me to make it as stress free as I wanted. It ended up being lovely and I’m glad they talked me into it. #GlobalBlogging

  12. Congratulations on your engagement! Hubby wasnt keen on a wedding but he knew that it was something I really wanted and we ended up making it a day that we both thoroughly enjoyed and with lots of personal touches that made it perfect for us (including Guns and Roses and Europe on the organ before I walked down the aisle!!) #globalblogging

  13. Congratulations!! So happy for you! Can’t wait to see how you do it! Whatever you do, do it your own way! You only get one chance at wedding this man of your dreams so make it the way you want it to be!

  14. Tracey Abrahams

    I understand all your feelings about weddings. I hate being the centre of attention and that was a big problem when I got married. The thing to remember is to male it your day done as you (and your husband) want it. Be that as small you want it to be.

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