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Fear of missing out? Now it’s a reality

According to Wikipedia:
“Fear of missing out (commonly abbreviated as FOMO) is described as a pervasive apprehension that others might be having rewarding experiences from which one is absent. This social anxiety is characterized by a desire to stay continually connected with what others are doing. FOMO is also defined as a fear of regret, which may lead to a compulsive concern that one might miss an opportunity for social interaction, a novel experience, a profitable investment, or other satisfying events. It perpetuates the fear of making a suboptimal decision about how to spend one’s time”
It’s a real issue although often used colloquially in a humourous way and it is this light-hearted version that I am writing about.
Despite my addiction to reading Facebook and Instagram posts, I have never considered myself to have FOMO. But now I, like many others during lockdown, find myself dwelling on the things that I am missing out on. The fear is now a reality…
This month we were supposed to be attending the launch of Paulton’s Park’s new area.
I should be frantic with exam invigilation and my mum should be enjoying the last few babysitting sessions with Zach before he starts school in September.
Matthew and Anya should be having class photos, discos, sports days, leavers’ assembly for Annie as she leaves infant school.
We hadn’t booked a summer holiday this year as we planned to have lots of days out. Not going to happen, is it?! Chris and I had planned to re-visit Stratford upon Avon without the kids so I could enjoy the history of the place.
I was so excited that I’d managed to get tickets and was finally going to cross Wimbledon off my bucket list.
This weekend we were supposed to host a big family party to celebrate my birthday and Matthew’s and be the first family get-together since my grandmother’s funeral last year.

 

The children are missing out on their education. Their engagement with any home learning is reducing week on week. They miss their friends.
I miss my mum and dad. Usually I see them most days. We are currently skyping daily, joined by my sister twice a week. But it isn’t the same. We haven’t eaten together, sharing a takeaway and a bottle of Prosecco. We haven’t done the school run together or been to the shops.
Over a month ago I write a post about the lockdown silver linings. I felt optimistic that the lockdown would quickly have a positive effect on the pandemic.
The truth is that I’m more scared now than I was then. The schools are set to open and my colleagues have been working tirelessly to make sure that it is safe for those chilodren that are venturing back in (staff have also been supporting the children of key workers this whole time so I have been very upset by the media coverage casting aspersions on their commitment).
Our leadership has been haphazard at best and the continuing saga of Dominic Cummings and his lunatic behaviour has undermined the efforts of our nation.
Oh, but at least toilet rolls are easily available now…

 

 


8 comments

  1. We all have so much to learn about living with ourselves and trusting for the good that we cannot yet see. It’s been hard and there are more hard days ahead. I appreciate your candid reflections here.

  2. I’m not a fan of that definition of FOMO – for me fomo is the fear of missing out, but not that others are having fun without you. I regularly organise tickets to events or dinner or art classes or whatever and I pretty much put out open invites – I don’t want to miss out but I welcome anyone who wants to come along too…I do hate the idea of missing things – thus I race to the ski jump in Oslo just before it closes because I didn’t want to miss that experince, I’ve done 2 concerts in a night because I didn’t want to miss either of them….and so on. I actually think FOMO can be a good thing. ..as long as it’s all about you and not about others….#Dreamteam

  3. And yes, I think it’s ok to feel sad about all the good things we’ve missed out on under COVID – for me, I’m much older than you, I feel pressure that I’ll be too old to do a lot of stuff soon so each missed festival or trip is one I won’t get back later on…..So I’m 100% with you on that. This whole thing sucks on so many levels. While in the grand scheme we need to be thankful for our health, I do think it’s okay to sit with those emotions of sadness and frustration too, in order to let them go. #Dreamteam

  4. I’m really anxious now about lockdown being eased, and like you was so positive and optimistic to start with. Motivation for home learning is pretty non-existent now too! But hey, just got to keep ploughing on I guess!! Hope you have a good week xx #dreamteam

  5. Before coming over to do some reading in the #dreamteam linky I was checking on a refund to one of the concerts I was supposed to be going to this summer. Such a bummer in so many ways. We don’t have the strongest group of leaders helping us through things over here in the States either, thats for sure

  6. Recently I have been feeling like it might be me missing things on the children’s behalf. They seem to be handling everything really well. I am amazed at their resilience #DreamTeamLinky

  7. *Sending hugs. It’s hard isn’t it. We are in the same boat with missed family, events, theatre, birthdays, blooming Merlin Passes* rolls eyes, and so on into the distance for as long as the eye can see. Those missed things give me a twinge of the grumps, but I think we’ve all been pretty resilent and actually, learning so much more by having to stay home. We’ll get through this in the end 🙂 #DreamTeamLinky xxx

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