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Wedding Wednesday: a legal rant

I am a little bit cross. I have been kind of preoccupied in a happy way about the wedding (no surprise!) but my attention has been drawn to something that has really wound me up.

Over half term,Β both a friend and my sister have mentioned to me that we need to re-register Zach’s birth.
Because due to an out of date ridiculous law (the 1976 Legitimacy Law), it is a legal requirement that we re-write the truth.
That’s right: we have to LIE.
A legal document that lies!
We HAVE to re-register so that Zach becomes a ‘child of the marriage’ or we face a fine. Well, he isn’t a child of our marriage, he is part of our relationship, an integral part of our family history.

I can see the benefit to legitimising children in the past – you know, 200 years ago when property was precious – but surely in the twenty first century the stigma of illiegitimacy no longer exists. I can’t believe the law hasn’t been updated to reflect the changing social climate.
As well as the blatant lie, I’m annoyed at the expense of paying for a new certificate as well as the effort of having to organise an appointment and attend it.
The form annoys me. Although to be fair I was irritated by the original birth certificate too as it lists the father first. Again showing that the legal system still values men more than women. I think the least a mum deserves after the effort of having a baby is the first mention on the birth certificate?!
The form to re-register still gives the father’s details first and then ask for the mother’s starting with SURNAME NOW. Well, I’m not changing my name so it will be exactly the same as it was on the perfectly good original document. Completely pointless. Then I have to sign to declare that Chris is Zach’s father. I find this a bit demeaning.
As far as I’m concerned, the whole process is archaic and slightly offensive.

I love all three of my children equally. I don’t love Zach more because he is the result of a happy relationship. I don’t love Matthew and Anya more because I had to be both parents to them for so many years. If we have another child, I won’t love it more because it was born in wedlock.
Sorry for my little rant today! Back to happy thoughts about the wedding…


Back to school and #globalblogging linky 48

Half term is over already! Check out my host post to see what we got up to!
I think Zach will be heartbroken this week that his idols have gone back to school and he is left with boring old Mummy all day.
I am very excited to have been invited to join as a host for 2018. This year we have the extra twist that we want to be more active on social media (see below to get your posts shared on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest).
My favourite post from last week was this one from Tales of Two Children. I am not a huge fan of Valentines especially the comercialisation of the whole thing. I would much rather Chris surprise me with flowers or chocs randomly than because he feels like he has to!
Shank You Very Much loved this post from Daydreams of a Mum. A well deserved rant about a shocking body shaming of teens and the ridiculous notion of women sized Doritos.
One Messy Mama highlighted this post from Miller In The City. Essential reading for parents about the importance of teaching our children to be safe and careful in the modern world.
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Ooh we had a fun half term!

The kid are back at school already, I can’t believe it!
We had one of the busiest school holidays we’ve ever had and the kids (and me) have absolutely loved it πŸ™‚ There were some big milestones for them as well…
Chris had Monday off work and we took the children swimming for the first time. I can’t swim so have never taken the children swimming before. In fact I haven’t been in a pool for about 25 years so I was a little nervous. Luckily the children were brilliant and loved it (well, Zach screamed for 15 minutes but then figured out it was huge fun too!). Matthew said it was the best day fot he year so far, Anya was fearless and Zach wanted to get on and swim by himself. I am now in the process of booking an intensive course for Matt and Annie in the Easter holidays and preparing to take Zach every week to grow in confidence and have fun together.

Next big thing was the first trip to the dentist. I was a dental nurse in a former life so have been checking their teeth every week. Matthew hasn’t lost any teeth yet and as he is almost 8 I was starting to get a little concerned. I thought he was just genetically a late developer but when Anya came home proudly wobbling a tooth I got worried that maybe something needed to be investigated. I took the children along to the Centre for Dentistry in our local Sainsbury’s where Chris is already a patient. The staff could not have been more welcoming and reassuring, even providing a balloon and stickers!

The next couple of days were spent with playdates (yay bucket list for the year!), films, shopping and relaxing. Thursday we also attempted to visit the playground but it rained and hailed just as we arrived so there was a LOT of sadness! Instead, we headed home and we completed the Fuzzikins craft sets which I must admit was huge fun. I am always surprised at how much I love crafts when I actually do them! (Check out my review and your own chance to win!)

Friday was a very exciting day as I took the children along to the opening of the new Jessops store in the Didcot Sainsburys. We have close friends in Didcot so have been here before. The children were well behaved due to an abundance of cake. I got to try out the photo printing service which was so much easier than I imagined as I could just plug my camera in using a USB connection.
We were given a canvas which was stunning and the kids adored it. Zach was fascinated: he has never seen a printed photo of himself before! I also got the chance to try out the Instax camera and the children were fascinated to get instant photos, another first for them!

To reward them for their good behaviour we had fun at the playground. No rain this time, yay!

The weekend was a mix of relaxing and chaos. My sister and family came over on Saturday and we were able to ask my niece and nephew to be bridesmaid and page boy at our wedding as well as get them to try on their outfits! Sunday was a more chilled out day of watching the Lego Ninjago Movie which I really enjoyed and so did the kids!

#Project365 week 7

Half term week! I have loved having all 3 kids home together this week and we have made the most of family time with Chris having a day off too!
Day 42: Chris and I went to our first wedding fair to get some ideas and drink champagne!

Day 43: Chris had the day off so we took the kids swimming for the first time. Matthew said it was the best day of the year so far. Zach screamed for about 15 minutes but then realised it was great fun.

Day 44: their first trip to the dentist. I am a former dental nurse so check their teeth every week but I was concerned as Matt is nearly 8 and hasn’t lost any teeth yet! No problems found, phew!

Day 45: a little bit of romance for Valentines Day with jam heart tarts.

Day 46: a trip to the playground was cancelled due to the rain so we headed home and played with these Fuzzikins instead.

Day 47: the opening of the new Jessops store in Didcot and I was really proud of how well the children behaved (bribery with non stop cake…)

Day 48: time to relax with cousins! Pudding was popular πŸ™‚

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