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National Selfie Day!

I hate selfies.

Everyone else’s look glam. Mine look grim.
The angle is always wrong so my forehead or chin or something looks huge! (or maybe it is just my weird features…!)
Please leave a comment with any tips!
I am never going to be sultry. I will never have the pout thing.
Instead I will have weird expressions and kids appearing with me 🙂

Actually that last one wasn’t too bad… 🙂
Happy National Selfie Day!

Marie Curie Blooming Great Tea Party

The shy girl hosting a party? Seriously?!
I only went and did it! Yay me!

I was inspired to support Marie Curie’s Blooming Great Tea Party so that they can continue with their work to help people with terminal illnesses and their families.
I cheated a little and bought a few cakes but also got busy in the kitchen making little fairy cakes and jam tarts (‘normal’ and wheat free)

So the morning itself arrived. I woke up oblivious and then remembered… I felt sooooo sick with nerves and wanted to cancel the whole thing and just donate some money myself 🙁
But I didn’t. I want to be a good role model for my children so despite my nerves I headed over to my daughter’s preschool to set up.

These little guys loved making a #cakeface !

So now it’s all over! I had the opportunity to sit and chat with some lovely mums and other members of the community. A big thank you goes to Spring Preschool in Blackwater for helping me to organise this event.
I really enjoyed it so thanks to everyone who supported me by providing cakes or donating money 🙂 I will be handing over £50 to Marie Curie this weekend.
Please support any local Blooming Great Tea Parties (the event runs 23rd-25th June) or donate online. Your money can make a huge difference to those coming to terms with their own mortality or facing the loss of a loved one.


Time is a great healer: the effects of quitting smoking!

I have never been a smoker, never even tried a cigarette. My grandmother died from throat cancer when I was 15 and smoking was partly responsible. I admit that when I saw on Chris’ profile that he smoked I almost didn’t contact him (super glad I did!) but when we met he explained there wasn’t an option for e cigarettes on the questionnaire. On our trip to Legoland recently there was a mum puffing away on a cigarette with her newborn inches away and I was appalled. I honestly can’t believe that people would choose to smoke knowing of the health risks to yourself and your children.
It is never be too late to quit the use of tobacco but the sooner you are able to stop the easier you will find it and be able to cut back on your chances of developing cancer and other diseases.
Within just minutes of your last cigarette, your amazing body will start to recover!
  • 20 minutes after you quit, both your blood pressure and heart rate will come down.
  • 12 hours after you quit, the levels of carbon monoxide in your blood will go down to normal.
  • 2 weeks to three months after you quit, your circulation will improve and lung function will increase.
  • 1 to 9 months after you quit, the shortness of breath and coughing will decrease. The small hair-like structures that work to move mucous out of your lungs, the cilia, will start to get back to normal function in the lungs.This will increase their ability to handle the mucous and clean out your lungs, reducing your risk of infection.
  • 1 year after you quit, the major risk of developing coronary heart disease will be half of what it is for someone that still smokes. The heart attack risk will also drop dramatically.
  • 5 years after you quit, the risk of cancers of the throat, mouth, bladder and esophagus will be cut in half. The risk of cervical cancer will fall to what a non-smoker has and the risk of stroke will fall to what a non-smoker has just after 2 to 5 years of not smoking.
  • 10 years after you quit, the risks of dying from lung cancer is roughly half of that for someone still smoking and your risk of cancer of the pancreas and voice box (larynx) will decrease.
  • 15 years after you quit, the risk of coronary heart disease will be like that of a non-smoker.
These are just some of the benefits of finally quitting smoking for good. When you quit smoking it will lower your risk of developing diabetes, it can help your lungs and heart and lets your blood vessels work more efficiently.
The life expectancy for a smoker will be (on average) 10 years shorter than that of a non-smoker. When you are able to quit smoking before you turn 40, you will cut back the risks of dying due to some sort of smoking-related health issue by roughly 90%.
When you quit smoking while you are younger, it reduces your health risks. However, quitting at any age will be able go give back valuable years of life that would otherwise be lost due to smoking.
Some people do find it hard to quit so it is often recommended that you try NRT (nicotine replacement therapies), the most popular being e cigarettes which contains e-liquid.
There are many other benefits of quitting smoking that you are going to notice immediately. You will immediately start saving the money you would have otherwise spent on tobacco, and you will also see that food will taste better, the sense of smell will go back to normal and your teeth and fingernails will stop being yellow. In addition to that, your clothes, breath and hair will smell better and any of the ordinary activities that would leave you out of breath will be easier to take on. Your skin will be healthier and you will not be prone to tooth loss or gum disease (something I saw a lot in my dental nursing days).

It isn’t easy. Chris used e cigarettes to help stop him smoke and has now managed to wean himself off nicotine completely. A struggle but he has done it. And so can you!

*Collaborative post

The Charming Candle Co: Luscious Vanilla Luxury Jewellery Candle review

I have always loved vanilla. Perfume, ice cream etc, love it!
I was absolutely delighted when I was sent a vanilla scented candle from The Charming Candle Co (They may actually be mind readers!).


Take a look at my video to see how I got on!

I honestly wasn’t imagining the scent that permeated through to the cardboard box packaging. I couldn’t quite identify it as it was such a rich fragrance, definitely luscious and luxury! My house smelled divine whilst the candle was burning but it was never overpowering. I have had candles in the past which were supposedly scented but this was a completely unique experience.
I burned the candle in 2 hour busts and after 12 hours the gold packet was uncovered enough to remove carefully from the wax. It was held on with some adhesive so that it remains safely away from the flames at all times.
And then the great reveal! A gorgeous sterling silver ring, very delicate, just my style and a perfect addition to my jewellery box!

*I was sent this candle for the purpose of this review. The company had no idea my favourite scent was vanilla nor my personal taste in jewellery! All opinions, video and pictures remain my own.

For Dad and Chris: Happy Father’s Day!

OK so TWO important men to celebrate today…
Let’s start with my own Dad.

A bit of an old pic (my sister looking devastatingly glam compared to me!) but I love the pride in this photo. Dad is proud of his girls and we are proud to be his daughters.
Dad is a self-confessed geek, a computer nerd, a train spotter. An incredibly clever man who is a structural engineer, his brain is like a calculator but his heart is made of gold.

When I think of Dad, I think of the garden, trains, DIY, spaghetti bolognese, Star Wars, Star Trek. I think he regrets working so much when we were little and missing out sometimes. But he was there to teach me to ride a bike (before I forgot again!) and has been there helping Matthew learn to ride his this month: Dad said it was like going back in time 30 years. The children live so close that he has a second chance to see all the milestones and achievements with the next generation.
I cannot begin to describe how much I owe to Mum and Dad, they have always supported and loved us, and I hope to make them proud by doing the same for my children.
And now onto Chris…

We didn’t meet until August 2014. This time three years ago, Chris was a single man. Now he is an amazing dad to THREE children.
I don’t think it has been an entirely easy transition for him but he has stuck with us and made us a proper family. He has shown that being a dad is in the heart not just in biology. He has reassured the children that they are lovable and is a fab role model.
We are able to unleash our inner geeks together and hopefully this will inspire the children to follow their hearts, not be sheep and follow the crowd. Neither of us are really comfortable around other people but together we are perfect.

We are happy. Exhausted, but happy. We go out as a family and try different things that I would never have done as a single parent. He is excited to spend time with us and doesn’t begrudge me putting the children first.
The kids are so excited when he gets home from work as he is the ‘fun’ parent, the one who can work the PlayStation, the one who walks Ollie, the one who is best at Lego, the one who lets them get messy in the garden, the one who fixes their broken toys, the one who has fixed our broken hearts.
So to Dad, my Chris and all the other wonderful dads out there: Happy Father’s Day!