My mum is an avid Mumsnet reader, her favourite section being the ‘am I being unreasonable…?’ threads. Mum knows I blog so drew my attention to this stream of vitriol against smug mummy blogs. Apparently the world hates me and other bloggers like me 🙁
It isn’t the first time I have seen Mumsnet members attacking bloggers. I took part in a live web chat (Mumstock) back in April and was stunned by the negative comments about mums who blog. Then of course we have the #solidaritea article in the Daily Mail.
I wrote my own response to the slummy mummy and dimwit narcissist accusation and much of it also applies to this thread so have a read!
So why do I blog?
I write this blog for me. I have been guilty of being so wrapped up in the children that I forget who Laura is. Of course I write about my family and my role as a mum. But I also focus on things that matter to me.
I am a vegetarian with wheat and fruit allergies so I include advice and recipes that hopefully will support others who face the same dietary challenges.
I struggled with breastfeeding and have written about the problems I went through. I have described my mental health issues that affected me before I had children.
I write about the mundane stuff, the fun stuff. The highs and lows of parenting. The triumphs, the mistakes. Getting older. Being a woman, being a partner, being a mum, being me.
I am very shy. This is my chance to be me. It may be that no one actually reads my blog but it is still an opportunity for me to be the me I am with those I love.
I am giving myself a voice. Women and mothers have fought to be heard throughout history and now technology has given us the gift of free digital speech.
I am mindful of my children’s feelings. Matt and Anya had YouTube channels before I started my own or this blog and I often ask permission to include anecdotes, photos or quotes. When they are older and more self conscious I will delete anything they are uncomfortable with.
I am creating a record of the milestones, adventures and events in our life together. My blog is something I hope we can all share and be proud of. Yes, I could do a private journal but this is a way to have a permanent document of everything we do, that the children will be able to access whenever they want.
I am not in this for the money or freebies. I am not about to get rich and famous (blushes and panics!). A little extra income would be nice on top of the 3 other part time jobs I have but what I really want is to help just one person, make one person know everything will be ok, tell one person to never give up. That may not have happened yet so I will keep going, writing mostly for me but also on the off chance I can help someone else.
I hope I am not smug.
I hope my family and friends read this and see the me they already know.
I hope I do not embarrass Chris or my children.
I hope I don’t let myself or them down.
I hope. So I blog.